COUPLES THERAPY
I have been loving, nay obsessing over an Apple TV/Paramount+ show called Couples Therapy. The premise is simple and obvious: couples go to see a therapist and their sessions are filmed.
Dr. Orna, a New York-based couples therapist, is the focus of the show, and let me tell you she is goooood. Just like with any show, or life story, there are unlikeable people (let me not name any names but the guy in the first season is unbearable). Yet, Dr.Orna does not immediately make assumptions about the couple the way I impulsively did. Sometimes the problematic person in the relationship seems so glaringly obvious and then, to my surprise, it turns out that the culprit was the other one.Dr.Orna gives her patients time to really express themselves and in the process unearth the most surprising insights. I’ve watched some genuine breakthroughs in communication: People turning to each other and saying “at the end of the day, i love you” or realizing that the relationship is over.
The editing feels minimal, which really adds to the beauty of interactions and also fulfills my pretentiousness by suggesting that what I’m watching is eLeVaTeD. Finally, it seems like people don’t come on the show for Instagram followers, which is a huge rarity nowadays.
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There is an adage: “you do not rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.”I only learned about the saying from my software engineer friend, but obviously wish that I had heard of it earlier. Schools and universities need to teach “systems thinking” to everyone. I’ve noticed that all of my engineering friends are able to accomplish tasks in a very dispassionate and productive way whereas I tend to agonize and procrastinate.
Anyway, I’m about to start law school and a bitch is scared: let’s just say I did not have the best habits in undergrad and regularly stayed awake for 48 hours to prep for exams. So in preparation for law school, I naturally turned toscholarly sourcesTikTok. In one of the videos, a girl talked about having every single minute of her day scheduled. While I’m not going to do that bc I just don’t have the willpower, I do want to establish some sort of a system because repetitive behaviors help you take off some of the cognitive load.
For instance, if I know that every single morning I have to get up, stretch for 10 minutes, and do a 5-minute face massage (something that the new and improved me will be doing starting tomorrow), then I don’t have to wake up wondering what the new day will bring.
There is a great book on building habits called Tiny Habits by Stanford professor BJ Fogg.
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Fleabag is in a league of its own.
It’s a show that is so funny and perceptive and touching all at the same time.
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